The following post needs some foreword to ensure that any information put in it is not taken out of context. If you think the post is about you, it's probably not. So please no emails, text, messages on FB etc saying, 'Was that about me?' Or 'Was that about so and so?' My answer will be an infatuate 'No'.
With all the legal disclaimers aside now, I can share my most interesting moments that has occurred lately.
I have spent time on this earth that is pretty much considered 'borrowed' time. Whatever your belief in religion, how we evolved, or if you still believe the stork delivered you, that's not the point. We all will pass on someday, cold, deep down fertilizing the grass where the cows will eat it, and your kids and grandkids will be eating the McDonalds Hamburgers from that cow. Yes, believe it or not, that will eventually happen. It's the circle of life.
WHEN that happens, could be in the middle of this post, tonight, tomorrow starting my car, or 40 years from now. Get the point yet? We don't have control over it, it's coming for us all.
So, what's the big deal right? Death and Taxes.
If no one can tell us when, even a doctor to say you have three months to live...then why won't you make the most of it? Why would you bother to sit around arguing?
We stay in our tunnel of life, thinking about what we're going to do this upcoming weekend. What if you don't have until then?
Make the most of right now, because you may not have but a few more minutes.
Listen to your surroundings, what people say, who is in your life. I had a great quote come to me recently. "Make a list of people in your life, put what value they bring into it. If you have a hard time finding value, then why are you talking to those people still?"
Why is it important to listen to what others say? 'You know he's cheating on you right?'...'Hey watch out for that missing step!'...'I love and care for you like no one else ever will.'
What did YOU just hear of those last three sentences without re-reading them?? Don't look yet! Be honest! ... Little challenging? Then you don't care what I'm writing here. You're just skimming and reading the parts YOU want to hear, understand, or know.
If so, you missed an important part already.
You can't help everyone, and you can't let everyone expect you to help them. The world is not the same, we must realize this. There is no one to take care of you, of us, no one....
If you start living with that mentality, what happens then? Sure you might say, 'I am just being realistic.' Really now? Did you not see those around you that want to help, be there for you, and want you to succeed?
Sure, it's always good to be self sufficient. I've learned that over five years...but why didn't I grasp that over 26 years?
Maturity, something we all handle differently. Life experiences, external obsolescence, DNA, parental and sibling factors, and relationships. When we've got someone we're with whom is, 'someone special' isn't that amazing? Then you realize, wow what an SOB he or she was...or the reverse can happen. (I miss so and so)
Look my point in this section about maturity is...we're all different and can handle certain situations differently with others....BUT we all cannot stand by for such a long period of time before we explode and unload.
Yeah but you didn't tie in maturity there...oh but I did! For myself to even comprehend that everyone is different as how they mature, proves that what I may see as mature, might be immature to another. Our paths in life are never the same. Similar, yes. Same...NO!
We as a collective must realize that and appreciate differences. If you're on the breaking point side though, are you mature to walk away or handle the situation head on? (Apply directly to the forehead) Sorry I digress with humor at times...
And realize, is the other side saying you're being immature by blowing up, by saying what they're saying...
Communication with people is so difficult. A computer has inputs and gives outputs. Even if there is Artificial Intelligence, it was still programmed how to do so.
We are independent thinkers, sometimes too independent. Walk softly, carry a big stick... be who you feel you are and want to be portrayed. We understand, you may know no better than your current situation or circumstances. Unless you listen, open your ears, your mind, your heart, and your soul...
... the short time you do or may have here will truly be wasted if you close yourself off.
Recognize your strengths, understand your weaknesses. You can't do that unless you listen, open yourself to others, learn from those that passed, and from the mistakes around you.
Look at this post, it's free advice! You could walk away going, STUPID POINTLESS!! Or you could be like WOW THAT'S GREAT!!...It's your life, you only get one to live and no one else does...
No one can live it for you, through you, or by you...you need to do it for yourself. But know you're not alone, have others around you all the time and everywhere. So listen, be aware, and define yourself of who you are before you can be with others in any relationship ...albeit friends, lovers, coworkers, etc.
As a closer I pull a quote from my favorite movie...which will put everything I just said in total perspective if you watch the movie and re-read this...
"The greatest thing you'll ever learn...is just to love...and be loved in return
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In Memory of D. & R. Kalich (Forever in my heart and thank you for always believing in me)
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